Underestimating

Most people underestimate what disabled people can do. They just assume that we cannot do it. But many people including myself have more determination than he average person! I am going to try anyway! People always offer me help and most of the time I’m like ‘ it’s ok don’t worry’ but sometimes when I know I physically know that i cannot do something then I might ask for help. I know that people are just trying to be kind but I want to have as much independence as possible. That’s a last result though, after many attempts! I cm do a lot more than most people think I am able to so don’t just assume we cannot do things.

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Boys

Being a teenage girl in a wheelchair doesn’t seem to help my social life with boys. They just avoid me and don’t bother coming to talk to me. Everyone else is surrounded in guys and it makes me feel upset and left out. It’s almost like they’re embarrassed to be around me. Some people may also experience this and know what I feel. I am no different to any other girl, Its just I’m in a wheelchair.  That doesn’t affect my personality. It’s not fair to be treated this way. But what my friends always tell me is that when I get older guys will, hopefully, understand. But when I do meet a guy and get into a relationship with him, at least I know that he is dedicated and doesn’t care whether I am in a wheelchair or not, he likes me for who I am. So anyone who ever feels upset or frustrated about this, remember what my friends said to me!

People don’t know

I am sure pretty much everyone who has a disability will agree with me when I say that unless they have the same condition as you they will never understand what your life is like. However had they may try to understand what it is like for you they will not be able to fully know what it is like.

It Is hard. I am in a wheelchair. 99% of the time i am upset about something the underlaying thought in my head is ‘it’s because I’m in a wheelchair isn’t it?’ I am a girl in my teens and so many changes happen: friendships, boys, school work, family situations and more. I start to blame myself if things go wrong.  I know that I shouldn’t but it’s just the way it is.

Your friends try to talk you out of it and tell me ‘ It’s not because your in   wheelchair, don’t be so silly’. But I know that deep down inside they may have a slight idea that it could be.

It’s not like this for everyone with a disability but for some of us it is and I am finding teenage years the hardest to cope with.

People do not know what life is like, to me it seems like an able bodied persons life may be easier because they do not have the Situation of disability to cope with. But everyone’s life is different.

I think that nowadays people need to come to terms with the fact that disability is quite common, and anyone with it should not be treated differently because of it.

I think that in the future life will get Better for us when we are treated equally.

 

The motto I live by

“Being disabled should not mean being disqualified from having access to every aspect of life” – Emma Thompson

I personally believe that having a disability does not mean that you should be excluded or be left out of anything. If I can, I will. Even if I probably won’t be able to,I  will give it a go!